We all seek to fulfill our most basic human needs for love, security, closeness, and comfort in our intimate relationships. We want to believe that we can count on our loved one to be there for us in our time of need, to feel supported, valued, and reassured when times get tough. When we feel this emotional connection with our partner, we are better able to manage conflict and differences that arise from time to time in a close relationship.
Despite the best of intentions, couples can oftentimes slip into a place of disconnection, losing their sense of love. Our most meaningful relationships stir up a lot of emotions, and when in distress, couples often feel alone, misunderstood, hurt, frustrated, emotionally distant, or hopeless. Couples can quickly get lost in repetitive self-defeating patterns of arguing and withdrawing, leaving both partners with unmet attachment needs and a threatened bond.
The goal of couples therapy is to reestablish a sense of secure connection between partners to withstand differences and the test of time. I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples to overcome their relationship distress, to rebuild and strengthen their attachment bond, and to be more open and responsive to each other. This short-term, empirically-based treatment approach has proven to move couples from distress to recovery in 10-12 sessions in 70-75% of cases, with 90% reporting significant improvement.
Creating a safe haven for children to grow in and leave from is what most parents strive to provide within their family life. We want only the best for our children – for them to feel loved, to be caring and compassionate, to be successful and responsible, and to feel good about who they are. We want to be there to support them and cheer them on through life’s most rewarding and challenging moments. But sometimes we need a little guidance through various issues that can arise within the family dynamic, such as divorce, difficult transitions, negative interaction patterns, and emotional disconnection.
Family therapy is an empowering means of restoring closeness, trust, and security within family relationships. Parents and their children can learn how to better relate to one another, to connect and repair during times of difficulty, to engage cooperation, and to navigate boundaries, rules, and interaction patterns.
I provide Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) to create secure attachment bonds between parent and child through increasing accessibility and responsiveness within this relationship. As children and adolescents begin to feel more positively connected to their parents, they are better able to confidently and independently succeed in their environments.
For all of us, the primary and most significant relationship that we will nurture throughout our lives is the one we hold with ourselves. It is through a deeper self-understanding that we can thrive in our relationships with others.
Individual counseling provides an outlet to explore issues that prevent people from achieving personal growth and enjoying satisfying relationships. If you are interested in enhancing awareness, improving self-confidence, and decreasing stress, then we can work together to explore troubling obstacles and to develop positive, healthy ways of coping to live a more balanced life.
Through individual therapy, I strive to empower men, women, children, and adolescents to achieve their greatest potential. Therapy is customized to meet your specific needs, and may include guidance on recognizing and changing negative thought patterns, developing self-compassion, finding your inner voice to communicate your needs in your relationships, and healing from relationship traumas.